NBCPhiladelphia.com - Byron Scott
He did say thou shalt not commit adultery.
The New Jersey pastor who said Facebook was a "portal to infidelity," and demanded that all married church leaders delete their accounts or resign immediately, admits to having had a three-way, and sometimes four-way, sexual relationship with his wife and a male church assistant.
His affair did not stem from Facebook.
The Rev. Cedric Miller confirmed the information reported Saturday by the Asbury Park Press of Neptune, which cited testimony he gave in a criminal case against the church assistant in 2003. The relationship happened about 10 years ago.
In his testimony in April 2003, Miller said that his wife had a sexual relationship with the assistant and that he was present at many of their trysts, reports the Asbury Park Press. He said the assistant’s wife was also there at times.
When asked to expand in detail on the affair, Miller testified, "We had crossed the line many times. I mean between the four of us. It was just, I mean there was touching, there was...it was crazy, it was as wrong as wrong could get,” reports the APP.
When the defense attorney asked if he was talking about sex, Miller said, “Yes.”
Miller gained national attention when he issued the no-Facebook-for-married-people edict this week. He said it came about because a large percentage of his marital counseling over the past year and a half has included infidelity stemming from the social-network website.
The 48-year-old leader of Living Word Christian Fellowship Church in Neptune Township claimed Facebook ignites old passions.
“It has come to my attention that a very painful part of my past has resurfaced,'' Miller wrote in an e-mail response to the APP Friday.
"This was resolved at that time and accordingly we will not allow it to detract from our mission at hand to save as many marriages as we can,” he said in the e-mail.
Miller said that his church leaders and other pastors were notified of the affair years ago.