Anti-Facebook Pastor Offers to Resign After Admitting Affairs

Apologizes for foolish transgression from the past

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    A pastor in Neptune, N.J. makes national headlines for banning Facebook use by leaders of his congregation. (Published Thursday, Nov. 18, 2010)

    A New Jersey pastor who believes Facebook leads to infidelity has offered to step down over a past affair that involved a three-way sexual relationship with his wife and a male church assistant.

    Pastor Cedric Miller spoke to his flock at Living Word Christian Fellowship Church in Neptune Township for about an hour on Sunday.

    His sermon came days after the Asbury Park Press reported the 48-year-old testified in 2003 that he had a three-way sexual relationship with his wife and a male church assistant 10 years ago.

    "For any pain that my past mistakes has caused you, I again ask for your forgiveness," the pastor said."

    Miller, with his wife by his side, asked any church leaders who supported him to join them, and an estimated 100 parishioners walked on the stage.

    Miller apologized for what he said was a foolish transgression from his past. He offered to step down as senior minister if church leaders found him unfit to serve. Miller said church elders will render a vote of "confidence" or "no confidence" in his ability to lead during a meeting Tuesday.

    "Should the elders and leaders now deem me unfit for duty, I love the church enough to step down immediately," he said.

    The pastor continued to call on church leaders to delete their Facebook accounts, claiming the social-networking site could lead to infidelity.

    In his testimony in April 2003, Miller said that his wife had a sexual relationship with the assistant and that he was present at many of their trysts, reports the Asbury Park Press. He said the assistant’s wife was also there at times.

    When asked to expand in detail on the affair, Miller testified, "We had crossed the line many times. I mean between the four of us. It was just, I mean there was touching, there was crazy, it was as wrong as wrong could get,” reports the APP.

    When the defense attorney asked if he was talking about sex, Miller said, “Yes.”

    Miller gained national attention when he issued the no-Facebook-for-married-people edict this week. He said it came about because a large percentage of his marital counseling over the past year and a half has included infidelity stemming from the social-network website.

    The 48-year-old leader of Living Word Christian Fellowship Church in Neptune Township claimed Facebook ignites old passions.

    “It has come to my attention that a very painful part of my past has resurfaced,'' Miller wrote in an e-mail response to the APP Friday.

    "This was resolved at that time and accordingly we will not allow it to detract from our mission at hand to save as many marriages as we can,” he said in the e-mail.

    Miller said that his church leaders and other pastors were notified of the affair years ago.